The ‘How’ in Our Lives Isn’t Always Up to Us

Q: “In your career as a singer have you ever been overwhelmed with making your dream a reality?”


Let me first share a little bit about me:

When I was three years old I told my mom that I would be a singer.

At eight I started taking singing lessons and by eleven I was a paid performer working at a dinner theatre doing what I love to do – sing. Throughout my teen years I entered competitions, sang at festivals and recorded albums.

Up to that point I mainly sang cover songs (songs that other people had written). I enjoyed writing lyrics and melodies, however melodies and lyrics come from my heart – I do not play an instrument, so I couldn’t compose and play the music to go along with my songs. I didn’t know how writing and performing my own songs would happen. It seemed like an overwhelming goal, but I believed it was possible.

Nine years ago I was at a music conference in Toronto, and I kept running into this one guy over and over again. Every workshop I was in – there he was. I finally went up to him and said “We keep bumping into each other – let’s figure out why.”

So, we began to chat and he said that he was a composer. I didn’t think much of it at the time. We exchanged emails and went our separate ways.  After corresponding through email for a few months it suddenly occurred to me – maybe he could compose music for me. I asked and he said Yes! He started sending me music and I wrote the melodies and lyrics for it. We turned out to be an awesome fit and we have been writing together ever since. Our recent song written together is ‘I AM SOMEBODY’.

I share this story with you because I want you to see that, even though we may not know how something will happen or how we will get to where we want to be, it doesn’t mean it won’t happen.

Knowing that the ‘how’ is not up to me has kept me going. Otherwise my dreams and goals seem too far away and overwhelming. Getting caught up in that overwhelming feeling makes it easy to give up.

In the face of challenging times and challenging feelings, it’s so important that you choose to:

  • persevere
  • be determined
  • allow yourself to make mistakes
  • learn from your mistakes
  • bounce back from challenges (resilience)
  • have the courage to ask questions
  • believe in who you are and what you have to offer even when others may not believe in you

Looking back, I realize I have come along way since that eight year old little girl who just wanted to sing. It’s because I continue to believe anything is possible when we put in the effort and keep moving forward!

It’s not about having all the answers and knowing how every little detail in life will play out – it’s about pushing yourself to be the best you can be and having faith in yourself.

One day you, too, will look back and say ‘Wow, look how far I’ve come!’

Until next time…

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